MERRIAM, Kan. -- Sometimes, becoming a mother isn't always what it's cracked up to be. Depression, anxiety or other negative emotions will set in for one in five new moms, but there is support for them in the metro.
Picture perfect. That's Kacie Deimeke thought motherhood would be. The reality with her baby, Gibson? Constant crying and trouble getting him to feed and sleep.
"It's not that it's happy and they're just sweet and cute. I think that was the hardest thing 'cause people kept telling me that, you know, 'isn't this just the best?'" said Deimeke.
She says it was great some days, but bad others. She was very tearful and anxious.
"Worrying about is this normal? Is he crying because something's hurt?" said Deimeke.
She felt alone, too, only she wasn't.
"It's amazing how many people are very shamed by not necessarily liking baby sometimes. It's one of those things nobody talks about that," said Sonya Corwine, a nurse manager with the birth center at Shawnee Mission Medical Center.
Diemeke found other moms to talk with at the medical center. It has a postpartum emotional support group, the only hospital-based one in the metro. In addition, a risk assessment is done with each mom who delivers there, and staff members are trained in postpartum disorders so they know to get professional help quickly for new moms who need it, and to offer support to all.
Corwine believes it is preventing severe depression and anxiety that could have tragic consequences.
"We're seeing more and more patients going back at their six-week visit that are actually very well-adjusted," she said.
Deimeke says the support group helped her.
"More than anything, I just needed that validation that what I was feeling was okay," she said.
Her anxiety eased. She's learned that motherhood doesn't always go by the book.
The support group is open to any new mom, not just those who deliver at Shawnee Mission Medical Center. The group meets every Thursday from 5:30 to 6:30 p.m. in the Tapestry Room which is located within the Breast Center at the Outpatient Entrance. For more details, call 913-632-4223 or go to this link.