Airline passenger exchanges notes, gets slapped by woman he considered rude to flight crew

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Update: All the tweets sent out by Elan Gale may have been fabricated by him in an attempt to ‘trick the internet.’ See story here about the possible hoax.

PHOENIX — A man on a Thanksgiving flight to Phoenix nervously decided to tell a woman that her behavior was out-of-line, and it ended with a slap to the face.

According to Daily Mail, Elan Gale began tweeting about his Thanksgiving experience at about 11 a.m. when there was an announcement that the flight was behind schedule.

The note Elan sent to her with the wine said:

Dear Lady in 7A, It has come to my attention that today is your “Thanksgiving!” It must be hard to not be with your family! Please accept this glass of wine. It is a gift from me to you. Hopefully if you drink it, you won’t be able to use your mouth to talk!

According to Gale, the flight attendant then gave him two little vodka bottles, and Gale worked up the courage to give them to her. He got up, pretended to walk toward the bathroom, and on his way set them on her tray. He tweeted that she stared at him REALLY hard and was breathing through her teeth.

After a few more tweets about how nervous and excited he was, Gale received a note from the woman in seat 7A. It said:

Dear “Elan” The wine wasn’t funny. The vodka wasn’t funny. You’re an awful person with no compassion. I’m sorry for your family that they should have to deal with you. Diane


Then things got even uglier. Elan wrote a note back to Diane and said he considered wadding up the note in a ball, sticking it in his mouth and spitting it out at her. The note (with a warning about profanities) read:

Dear “Diane,” Thank you for your lovely note. The person who lacks compassion is you. We all want to get home, particularly the nice men and women who fly your lazy ass around and serve you drinks (you’re welcome!). next time you’re in a bad mood, stay home. I hate you very much. Eat my d*** Love “Elan”

After that note, Diane wrote one back to Elan to tell him she would be contacting authorities about his inappropriate behavior. Elan wrote her another note in which he told her she should be sure to tell the authorities about her cannibalism.

After the plane landed and they were in the terminal, Elan tweeted: “Well, Diane just slapped me.”

Then he recapped in a series of tweets:

When I got off the plane I waited for her at the gate. I was holding another note in my hand and I was going to give it to her. She walked right up to me and slapped me immediately in the face.

The gate agent for the next flight actually grabbed her and held her back. He asked me if I wanted to have the airport police come over. I said no.

She turned to the gate agent and said, ‘Am I going to make my flight to Sacramento?’ He said no. I laughed.  And then the gate agent said, ‘Are you sure you don’t want to talk to the police?You can if you want to.  And I said, ‘No. It’s okay. I understand. But I do have a note for her.’ And I handed it to her and I walked away.

His final message to Diane:

Gale’s twitter bio says he is a producer at ABC’s The Bachelor.

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  • Linda

    If that is how the woman acts in public, can you imagine how she acts around those that know her personally? I’m sure the family she was to be getting with we’re THANKFUL she was not there on time so they could spend SOME time together without Ms Complainer ruining the entire day. They probably were all giving each other high fives when they found out flight was late. Hateful = someone full of hate.

  • Kari

    Diane, I am sure that your selfcenteredness can be traced. Did your parents bend over backwards to get you everything you desired as a child and still, to this day? Did they go to bat for you against your teachers when you were a child? Did they tell you constantly that you are a joy even when you had temper tantrums ? Did they tell you that you were right in slapping elan when you told this story at Thanksgiving dinner which I am sure they delayed because you were not there yet? There they are…the ones you SHOULD have slapped!

    • sammy

      the sad truth is people like her are always Traveling alone, their hubby probably happy when he die so he didn’t have to seal with her TT. lol

      I dealt with customer service, they will pull out the age card. boo hoo. and have a sense of entitlement. my thing is, you want respect, you show respect.

    • stanmich

      Unfortunately he is being rewarded with free publicity and hero worship from people who have no more integrity than he does. I’m guessing he’s going to be purposely looking for stressed out, middle-aged women that he can bully on every plane trip from now on….

  • Frank

    Neither of them behaved very civil His choice of words is as uncivil as her inconsiderate complaining. She successfully brought him down to her level and beat him there and he was so foolish he made a public spectacle of the matter. None of us are the better for having heard even one word of this.

  • Christina

    I think they are both immature and what I find total hypocrisy is when he said he was initially praying for her! THEN he goes on to act in a manner that is not consistent with praying for someone. He should have just let the attendants deal with her and if he felt sorry for them, he should have given them a monetary gift for a nice restaurant or coffee shop with a nice note to them for putting up with her rude behavior!

  • iliketag

    So many holier-than-thou people on the internet. As a lowly hourly worker, I appreciate the “spectacle” this gentleman made. Sometimes you just want to tell someone to go F*** themselves. He did it with style. Good for him! Reading the comments here it seems like those posting are essentially saying they’ve never lost their cool in a situation – guess what? You have. I guarantee you you have. I guarantee you’ve been a story someone you’ve treated like garbage has told their friends/spouse/coworkers about because you were a real piece of work. It’s ok though, because you’re better than everyone else right?

  • Scott

    While Elane was certainly out of line. Escalating the situation isn’t the right thing to do. The guy was as big as jerk as her. I hate “social media” This guy wouldn’t have done anything if he didn’t think his friends would “LOL”.

    • Susan

      What he said and did was belittling to her and was uncalled for – and then to make it so public? Really!. He should have kept his pen and paper to himself. Is this how this world is becoming – to be cruel to others and people think it is funny when she obviously was already upset? He said she was wearing a medical mask – anyone think her health may not be well? Maybe this holiday meant something special to her. Don’t judge others until you have walked in their shoes.

      • mrs. m

        I’ve walked in the shoes of the flight attendant. I’ve worked in the service industry on holidays. Being vile to someone who is simply trying to do their job and serve is unacceptable, no matter who you are. And maybe Elan didn’t say it the way you’d prefer, but more people should call out the Diane’s of the world when they go around forgetting other people matter, even of those people just serve the drinks on your flight.

  • Susan

    Did anyone think that maybe this was the first time to be with her family for some time and she was so hurt and frustrated that it came across as anger? Maybe she didn’t get to see her family often and was feeling like she was missing out. Maybe this might be that last Thanksgiving for one of her loved ones. You don’t know what she was thinking, what she was feeling or why she was reacting the way she was, and until you do, what right do you have to be so cruel? He could have simply sent the alcohol and a NICE note, been understanding and helped her calm, instead of being hateful. That is what is wrong with this society.

  • Shelly Humphrey

    To all you people commenting……. this isn’t about you! lol Sorry I had to. If the name were changed, I’d think the old bitty was my mother. He went a tad overboard but then so did she. Maybe her family was a bit relieved that she didn’t show on time.

  • SanDee

    Maybe next time she’ll think before she freaks. And plan your planned trip months ahead of time so you can leave at least a day earlier. Or take your meds before you leave home. No joke.

  • Not Elan

    They both behaved badly. Watching a rude person act rude and responding to that by being rude doesn’t solve anything. Elan wanted head pats from his social media “friends.” Kind of sad, really.

  • Vivian

    No matter what her feelings were she has no right to be so selfish and rude. There are too many people who only think of themselves and this woman was flat out wrong. No excuse for this behavior she was not brought up with any class or manners.

  • Traveling Doc

    I’ve been in both positions, so I’m a little less prone to judge either. It is easy to get upset when held captive by unchangeable circumstances and to vent that frustration on folks with no capacity to change it–flight attendants, waiters, whatever. It is also easy to let what could have been a gently confrontative but conciliatory gesture devolve into your own expression of contempt–I’ve been guilty of that, too. But to continue down that path once it has become clear that there’s nothing to be gained but the smug and just as self-absorbed faux vindication is just as narcissistic as the rude and mean spirited grousing that started these exchanges. In the words of the Prince of Verona: “All are punished.”

    I’ve gone back or written on several occasions to apologize for having been gruff in circumstances where it accomplished nothing. If the note with the wine had said, rather than “use your mouth for something else,” “I hope we all get home soon and remember to be thankful that we have a home and family to visit,” the effect would have been much greater–and if it wasn’t, be sad for her. My grandfather always told me that the behavior of others was no justification for the misbehavior of a gentleman–we are each responsible for how we choose to act.

  • Rob Miller

    dumb guy should have LEFT HER ALONE…plain and simple…he looks like a dumb hippy that opens his mouth up too much to start problems from being a high dumb hippy kid with a tweet ffed, let me tell you something, if i was that lady, i’d slap him too just on principal…

  • John

    People say you mellow with age. I’m not sure when that is supposed to start. Probably would of done the same thing, even though one message was enough, its kind of like lays potato chips, you just cant stop at one. Especially after 2 vodka’s.

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