Man reveals ‘true’ identity in obituary, instructs son to avenge his death

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MINNEAPOLIS, Minn. — Aaron Joseph Purmort sat down one day with his wife and together they wrote his obituary. For his wife, Nora, it was an emotional endeavor.

“I’ve never laughed and cried more in one sitting,” she wrote in her blog titled ‘My Husband’s Tumor.’ Nora says, “It’s not a cancer story, it’s a love story. With some cancer.”

While writing the obituary, somehow Nora and Aaron managed to keep the couple’s sense of humor:

Purmort, Aaron Joseph age 35, died peacefully at home on November 25 after complications from a radioactive spider bite that led to years of crime-fighting and a years long battle with a nefarious criminal named Cancer, who has plagued our society for far too long. Civilians will recognize him best as Spider-Man, and thank him for his many years of service protecting our city. His family knew him only as a kind and mild-mannered Art Director, a designer of websites and t-shirts, and concert posters who always had the right cardigan and the right thing to say (even if it was wildly inappropriate). Aaron was known for his long, entertaining stories, which he loved to repeat often. In high school, he was in the band The Asparagus Children, which reached critical acclaim in the northern suburbs. As an adult, he graduated from the College of Visual Arts (which also died an untimely death recently) and worked in several agencies around Minneapolis, settling in as an Interactive Associate Creative Director at Colle + McVoy. Aaron was a comic book aficionado, a pop-culture encyclopedia and always the most fun person at any party. He is survived by his parents Bill and Kim Kuhlmeyer, father Mark Purmort (Patricia, Autumn, Aly), sisters Erika and Nicole, first wife Gwen Stefani, current wife Nora and their son Ralph, who will grow up to avenge his father’s untimely death.

Doctors diagnosed Aaron with brain cancer in 2011. He passed away last week. Nora described her husband’s experience like this: “It wasn’t a war or a fight. Those things have rules. This was more like Aaron getting in the ring with the Mohammed Ali of cancers, and smiling for round after round after he got his teeth knocked out and his face rearranged.”

Nora and Aaron shared their story with A&E. It will be told as part of a documentary. Watch the trailer below.

Nora’s sister has set up a crowdfunding page to help with Aaron’s medical and funeral expenses.  So far they have raised more than $100,000.